Thursday, February 26, 2009

HIs or her way OR my way?

To some, this might sound like a signature question of Walter.. Now u smile.. hehe.. I have actually bothered by this question for quite sometimes.. Here you go.. How do you deal with differences in opinions? Your friend may find it so right and you are just at the other contrasting end, in which you find it so wrong, dreadfully wrong, horribly wrong and awfully wrong.. While your friend cherishes his or her judgment, there you are, at one corner, calculating your own evaluation af a situation.. How do you go about it?? Will you be honest to yourself and telling him or her the hard fact or let it be and compliantly pray that your friend would one day realize his or her mistake? What if the slipup is on the expense of your friend's pride and dignity? But you knew it beforehand that your opinion might cause your friendshp at stake.
Hmmm.. Another question.. This is very much related to the first one. Well, your friend thinks that his or her idea is at its greatest, at its best and at its supreme, thus, it must be accepted and he or she sees others' as unimpressive and unconvincing, when in fact, the others' point of view is the one that is more credible.. You just do not want to cause a heart wrecked. You also fear that your friend might think that you want to fly your own kite or to brag when your only intention is to get things done orderly and properly. How about it? When room for tolerance is little and it is certainly no ground to compromise, should I do his or her way OR my way?

3 comments:

Robin Wong said...

People have different opinions because we view things very subjectively. It is okay if we voiced out our opinions. However, it is not okay when either sides are influenced by negative emotions. For example, when the other side feels like you are opposing his or her ideas just for the sake of opposing, then, your opinions would be an excessive ones. If the other side took your opinions as a constructive ones, then, you really contribute to the subject matter that you are discussing.

Walt said...

What about the case of Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Robin Wong said...

owh...that type of persons are opposing 24-7. so you might need to have a stronger gut and zeal and voice to really get you opinion across. and the subordinates are the ones you can work on as they might agree with you. and the majority wins. thus, mr. right and mrs. right would not be able to do anything...